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                   It was a sunny day in June when we found out our landlord wouldn't be renewing our lease, the day was going great, I made a couple of sales, business wasn't great but it was paying bills. I was talking to my husband in "the shop" (the tiny home in the backyard that turned out to be the perfect workspace) about the rodent problem that we were experiencing when my oldest son came in with the mail. There it was, a notice that our landlord wouldn't be renewing our lease. The talk of rodents went elsewhere, we immediately went into survival mode thinking and planning what would be our next move. We were starting over with the house, at the top of our budget at 1400 dollars a month plus utilities.  The duplex we lived in before the house was great for a Sunnyside Duplex,. The landlord kept it up, but there was a shootout there, and that raised concerns with my husband and I, which caused us to look for another place to live. So we found thou house wit

Setting boundaries in relationships is an important aspect of creating healthy and fulfilling connections with others. Boundaries are the limits we set for ourselves in terms of how we want to be treated, what we are willing to accept, and what we are not willing to tolerate. They are a way of communicating our needs and expectations to others, and they help to establish a sense of respect, trust, and safety in our relationships. Here are some key reasons why setting boundaries is important in relationships: Protecting Yourself: When we set boundaries, we are protecting ourselves from being mistreated, taken advantage of, or disrespected. Boundaries allow us to clearly communicate what we are comfortable with and what we are not, and they help to establish a sense of personal autonomy and control over our lives. Building Trust: When we set boundaries and communicate them to others, we are demonstrating that we are trustworthy and reliable. This can help to build trust in our relationsh

     Letting go and surrendering to the universe can be a challenging concept to understand, but it can also be incredibly transformative. The idea is to release the need for control and trust in the universe's power to guide us toward our highest good. This means accepting that some things are outside of our control and allowing them to unfold naturally.      One of the most significant benefits of letting go and surrendering is the relief it can provide. When we hold onto the need for control, we can feel anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed. But when we surrender, we release that burden and allow ourselves to be guided by a higher power. This can bring a sense of peace and calm that is difficult to achieve otherwise.      Another benefit of surrendering is that it allows us to see situations from a new perspective. When we are stuck in the need for control, we can become tunnel-visioned and miss opportunities or possibilities that are outside of our current view. Surrendering can

     Infidelity in relationships refers to the act of a partner engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone outside of the committed relationship. It can cause significant emotional pain, and trust issues, and can lead to the breakdown of the relationship. Overcoming infidelity in a relationship is a challenging process, and it requires both partners to be willing to work together to rebuild trust and repair the damage that has been done. Here are some steps that can help: 1. Acknowledge the infidelity: The first step towards healing is to acknowledge the infidelity and take responsibility for it. The unfaithful partner should be honest about what happened and why it happened. 2. Apologize: The unfaithful partner should apologize to their partner for the pain they have caused. The apology should be sincere, and the partner should take responsibility for their actions. 3. Open communication: Both partners need to have open and honest communication to rebuild trust. The be

     Forgiveness is a crucial element in any healthy relationship. It allows individuals to move past negative experiences and emotions, to let go of grudges, and to repair broken trust. Without forgiveness, conflicts and misunderstandings can fester and lead to resentment, bitterness, and even the breakdown of a relationship.      Forgiveness involves a willingness to let go of anger, bitterness, and other negative emotions that may arise from a particular event. It does not mean forgetting or excusing what has happened, but rather accepting it and moving on. Forgiveness also requires an understanding of the other person’s perspective and a willingness to empathize with them. In a healthy relationship, forgiveness should be a two-way street. Both parties must be willing to forgive and seek forgiveness when necessary. This requires humility, vulnerability, and a willingness to admit when one has made a mistake or hurt the other person. When both parties are committed to forgiveness, it

          Self-reflection and introspection are crucial for achieving personal and professional goals. These practices allow us to gain a deeper understanding of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. By understanding ourselves, we can identify the barriers that prevent us from reaching our goals and make positive changes that align with our aspirations.      Self-reflection involves taking the time to think about our experiences and evaluate our thoughts and behaviors. This process allows us to identify patterns in our thinking and behavior that may be holding us back from achieving our goals. For example, we may have a habit of procrastination or self-doubt that prevents us from taking the necessary steps to achieve our goals. By recognizing these patterns, we can work on changing them and replacing them with more positive and productive behaviors.      Introspection involves looking inward and exploring our deepest beliefs, values, and motivations. This process allows us to gain a g

     Long-distance relationships (LDRs) are often viewed as challenging and unsustainable due to the physical distance that separates partners. However, research and anecdotal evidence suggest that LDRs can indeed last and even thrive under the right circumstances. In this commentary, we will explore some of the reasons why LDRs can work and how they can be sustained over time.      One key factor that contributes to the success of LDRs is effective communication. Because physical touch and face-to-face interactions are limited, partners in LDRs often rely heavily on verbal communication to maintain a sense of connection. This can involve phone calls, text messages, video chats, and other forms of virtual communication. Effective communication means being honest, transparent, and responsive to each other's needs and concerns. It also means finding creative ways to stay connected, such as planning virtual date nights or sending care packages.      Another factor that can contribute

     Jealousy and insecurity are common emotions that can arise in any relationship. While it is natural to feel these emotions from time to time, they can become problematic if they are not dealt with in a healthy way. Unresolved jealousy and insecurity can lead to distrust, conflict, and even the breakdown of the relationship. Therefore, it is important to learn how to deal with these emotions in a constructive way.      The first step in dealing with jealousy and insecurity is to identify the root cause of these emotions. Often, jealousy and insecurity stem from a fear of loss, a lack of trust, or feelings of inadequacy. It is important to take the time to reflect on what is causing these emotions and to communicate these feelings with your partner in an open and honest way. Being vulnerable and sharing your fears with your partner can help to build trust and intimacy in the relationship, while also allowing for constructive communication around the issue.       Another important s

       Self-awareness is a critical skill that allows us to understand ourselves, our emotions, and our motivations. It helps us recognize our strengths and weaknesses, enabling us to make better decisions in all aspects of our lives. In this article, we will explore the power of self-awareness and provide some practical tips on how to know yourself better. What is Self-Awareness?      Self-awareness is the ability to reflect on one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It is the ability to observe oneself from an outside perspective, allowing us to identify patterns and tendencies that shape our lives. Self-awareness allows us to recognize our emotions, understand why we react to certain situations in a particular way, and make conscious decisions based on that knowledge. Why is Self-Awareness Important?      Self-awareness is an essential skill for personal and professional development. It helps us to identify our strengths and weaknesses, which are essential for self-improvement.

     Visualization is a powerful tool that can help you manifest your goals by creating a clear mental picture of what you want to achieve. It involves using your imagination to create a mental image of yourself already having achieved your goal, along with the associated emotions and sensations. By visualizing your goal in this way, you can increase your motivation, overcome limiting beliefs, boost your confidence, improve your performance, increase creativity, reduce stress, and ultimately, manifest your goals.      The first step in using visualization to manifest your goals is to clarify what you want to achieve. Write down your goals and be as specific as possible. This will help you create a clear mental picture when you visualize. Once you have your goals in mind, you can begin to use visualization to create a mental image of yourself already having achieved them.      To do this, it’s important to use all your senses when visualizing . It’s not just about seeing a mental imag